So on point. Thank you for all of these nuances. I love the no-buttons thing. I was interviewing a math tutor for my son, and he was kind of feeling out to see if my son was autistic. It was great when I found out that he only likes to work with autistic kids. He also self-identifies as autistic. He was trying to tell me he was not a "cuddly 1st-grade teacher." I could not figure out why he was trying to tell me that he was not very nice or empathetic when he was the most empathetic person I had met in a while. I then realized he had to be autistic. I told him, you can tell it to us straight. I don't find that offensive. I need to know what is going on, please be straight with us. I don't think that is a problem. I realize that is such a huge thing that makes allistic people so upset. I heard someone say that it has to do with power, but now I think it's more than that. I think it has to do with motivation. Allistics are motivated by power or praise and think that they have to kiss butt and expect others to kiss butt. Autistics are always motivated by their special interests and doing what they like REALLY well. We CARE about what we do and how things are done. We don't care about the power or the praise, we just want things to be done and move forward. It is never personal. And we are not going to ever kiss anyone's butt. We'll kind of act that way if we respect that person a lot. So this is why we have hard times.
Loved this episode! My two favorite spots were, “You’re processing far more data than the people around you. You’re sensitive to far more things than the people around you. And therefore, there’s a lot more that will irritate you.” This is so true for me! After a brief pause in convo,
“Yeah, Sorry, a cat just walked by and looked me straight in the eye as though it had an important message for me.” Yes! I can relate to this as well. Haha. Also, the need to have all the screws on all the light switches & outlets in the house going the same direction. Yes, absolutely. I can always tell when they’ve been messed with. Love the show. Thanks for sharing yourselves with us.
I’ve always had a thing for quality fabrics, fashion and efficacy. Those came together in middle school when I took every piece of clothing I owned and made a list of every combination of outfits I could wear without repeating any close together. Once I had my list of 2 weeks worth of unrepeated clothing I would do a week of one piece recombined to make it 3 weeks. lol I hated thinking about what I was going to wear and if I had worn it recently. This allowed me to do it once and get an extra 15 minutes of sleep every morning. Yay systems! Yup, I’m definitely on the spectrum. 44 years to figure that out and only with the help of this podcast. Thank you.
So on point. Thank you for all of these nuances. I love the no-buttons thing. I was interviewing a math tutor for my son, and he was kind of feeling out to see if my son was autistic. It was great when I found out that he only likes to work with autistic kids. He also self-identifies as autistic. He was trying to tell me he was not a "cuddly 1st-grade teacher." I could not figure out why he was trying to tell me that he was not very nice or empathetic when he was the most empathetic person I had met in a while. I then realized he had to be autistic. I told him, you can tell it to us straight. I don't find that offensive. I need to know what is going on, please be straight with us. I don't think that is a problem. I realize that is such a huge thing that makes allistic people so upset. I heard someone say that it has to do with power, but now I think it's more than that. I think it has to do with motivation. Allistics are motivated by power or praise and think that they have to kiss butt and expect others to kiss butt. Autistics are always motivated by their special interests and doing what they like REALLY well. We CARE about what we do and how things are done. We don't care about the power or the praise, we just want things to be done and move forward. It is never personal. And we are not going to ever kiss anyone's butt. We'll kind of act that way if we respect that person a lot. So this is why we have hard times.
Thank you for sharing! Great insights!
Loved this episode! My two favorite spots were, “You’re processing far more data than the people around you. You’re sensitive to far more things than the people around you. And therefore, there’s a lot more that will irritate you.” This is so true for me! After a brief pause in convo,
“Yeah, Sorry, a cat just walked by and looked me straight in the eye as though it had an important message for me.” Yes! I can relate to this as well. Haha. Also, the need to have all the screws on all the light switches & outlets in the house going the same direction. Yes, absolutely. I can always tell when they’ve been messed with. Love the show. Thanks for sharing yourselves with us.
I’ve always had a thing for quality fabrics, fashion and efficacy. Those came together in middle school when I took every piece of clothing I owned and made a list of every combination of outfits I could wear without repeating any close together. Once I had my list of 2 weeks worth of unrepeated clothing I would do a week of one piece recombined to make it 3 weeks. lol I hated thinking about what I was going to wear and if I had worn it recently. This allowed me to do it once and get an extra 15 minutes of sleep every morning. Yay systems! Yup, I’m definitely on the spectrum. 44 years to figure that out and only with the help of this podcast. Thank you.