I loved Matt’s point about Sir Mix-a-Lot embodying autistic kink because he’s so honest: “I like big butts and I cannot lie.” No hinting, no flirting game—just a clear, declarative preference.
It got me thinking that Rick Astley might also embody autistic culture in Never Gonna Give You Up. His lyrics are a masterclass in hyperlexic love communication:
• “You know the rules and so do I” → rule awareness and shared expectations
• “A full commitment’s what I’m thinking of” → explicit, all-or-nothing commitment
• “You wouldn’t get this from any other guy” → acknowledgement of atypical sincerity
• “I just wanna tell you how I’m feeling / Gotta make you understand” → direct emotional expression framed in a cognitive information transmission lens
In other words, Rick Astley is basically performing autistic romance: clear, rule-based, and deeply sincere. He also gets teased a lot in modern discourse which I’m sure one or two of us can relate to.
This is an absolutely awesome podcast! Surely among my top 10, if I ever attempted to rank them all. Loved this episode the first time I listened a couple months ago, and again now I'm a fully paid Autistic Culture Guardian and have access to all the amazing links. Wow this one explains so much about my sexual history, particularly with respect to intensity, role play, sensory experimentation, and stimming. First time I listened was during a lull at work, when a bunch of us were encouraged to listen to music or podcasts to stave off the boredom of redacting thousands of pages of confidential information. I listened with my mouth hanging open scribbled a few cryptic notes, and vowed to listen again soon. One thing I'm very grateful for is a complete lack of shame during and after my various adventures. I winked at myself in my rear view mirror as I left the scene of a few fun sessions. I amused myself and others telling a kinky Dr. he could leave marks on me, and that I was wise to explore BDSM with someone who could revive me if anything went wrong. Certainly a heroine's journey in my mind! Though I'm a lot less kinky post menopause, I savor my memories and am grateful I've never had a bad experience with kink. Yay safe words!
It covered so much of what my last relationship (polyamorous with an ADHD and another Autistic who were a married couple) promised to be but I feel fell short of. It left me feeling like there is hope out there still to make connections and that I shouldn't just cut off the kink side of myself I had been starting to explore because I got burned.
I also choose to believe it is episode 69 on purpose.
OMG I haven't even listened to this yet and already my soul is laughing with joy. I KNEW there was a reason kink spoke so strongly to me! Thank you for doing this episode.
I loved Matt’s point about Sir Mix-a-Lot embodying autistic kink because he’s so honest: “I like big butts and I cannot lie.” No hinting, no flirting game—just a clear, declarative preference.
It got me thinking that Rick Astley might also embody autistic culture in Never Gonna Give You Up. His lyrics are a masterclass in hyperlexic love communication:
• “You know the rules and so do I” → rule awareness and shared expectations
• “A full commitment’s what I’m thinking of” → explicit, all-or-nothing commitment
• “You wouldn’t get this from any other guy” → acknowledgement of atypical sincerity
• “I just wanna tell you how I’m feeling / Gotta make you understand” → direct emotional expression framed in a cognitive information transmission lens
In other words, Rick Astley is basically performing autistic romance: clear, rule-based, and deeply sincere. He also gets teased a lot in modern discourse which I’m sure one or two of us can relate to.
Love this so much!!!
Such a great episode on the appropriate episode number 😜
This is an absolutely awesome podcast! Surely among my top 10, if I ever attempted to rank them all. Loved this episode the first time I listened a couple months ago, and again now I'm a fully paid Autistic Culture Guardian and have access to all the amazing links. Wow this one explains so much about my sexual history, particularly with respect to intensity, role play, sensory experimentation, and stimming. First time I listened was during a lull at work, when a bunch of us were encouraged to listen to music or podcasts to stave off the boredom of redacting thousands of pages of confidential information. I listened with my mouth hanging open scribbled a few cryptic notes, and vowed to listen again soon. One thing I'm very grateful for is a complete lack of shame during and after my various adventures. I winked at myself in my rear view mirror as I left the scene of a few fun sessions. I amused myself and others telling a kinky Dr. he could leave marks on me, and that I was wise to explore BDSM with someone who could revive me if anything went wrong. Certainly a heroine's journey in my mind! Though I'm a lot less kinky post menopause, I savor my memories and am grateful I've never had a bad experience with kink. Yay safe words!
This is an amazing episode ranging from bratting as stimming, neurochemicals, and safety
I loved this episode so much!!
It covered so much of what my last relationship (polyamorous with an ADHD and another Autistic who were a married couple) promised to be but I feel fell short of. It left me feeling like there is hope out there still to make connections and that I shouldn't just cut off the kink side of myself I had been starting to explore because I got burned.
I also choose to believe it is episode 69 on purpose.
Lol that was the first thing I noticed. I was laughing about it before I even listened to the episode.
OMG I haven't even listened to this yet and already my soul is laughing with joy. I KNEW there was a reason kink spoke so strongly to me! Thank you for doing this episode.