I am currently feeling stuck in obligation to visit my mother (who has dementia) in her long-term care facility that requires a 2-hour drive to get there.
My brother doesn’t respond to my communication attempts but will text/call me when he wants something. When my mom’s dementia became noticeable, my brother said “I’m losing my mother but gaining a sister”. But his lack of communication is losing me. As is his refusal to get my clearly Autistic niece assessed. I have tried stating my needs, I have tried creating boundaries.
I feel guilty for not being the “attentive daughter” and wanting to go no-contact with my brother.
And yet our family history and dynamic is one where my needs and wants are regarded as less important than everyone else’s.
I am currently feeling stuck in obligation to visit my mother (who has dementia) in her long-term care facility that requires a 2-hour drive to get there.
My brother doesn’t respond to my communication attempts but will text/call me when he wants something. When my mom’s dementia became noticeable, my brother said “I’m losing my mother but gaining a sister”. But his lack of communication is losing me. As is his refusal to get my clearly Autistic niece assessed. I have tried stating my needs, I have tried creating boundaries.
I feel guilty for not being the “attentive daughter” and wanting to go no-contact with my brother.
And yet our family history and dynamic is one where my needs and wants are regarded as less important than everyone else’s.